I intend to put shame to this people

Time to be thankful.

I wanted to ‘shame’ this people. I intend to.

(inb4 takutlah teww pasal pos kau kutuk doktor sebab tu post ni.)

HSB’s child, mum friendly policy

So you’ve read my two previous posts (They say and My baby is in NICU. I don’t want to say a lot on HSB policy, but that image above was all around the hospital.

I am NOT trying to show off, or bragging about my birth, or to to bite my thumb at HSB as some thinks. But one sided story and assumptions made me ‘geram’ and enough is enough. There are two sides of a coin and this is mine.

Maybe I was at fault at some things, maybe it’s theirs. But as I haven’t loudly put any blame on them as much as they LOVE to put their own lack of professionalism, courtesy and blame on me, I don’t know.

I was hesitant to tell people about me giving birth. Because I am not sure what will happen to my baby. At least until she is okay. But my genius youngest sister had to blurt it out in our whatsapp group. So the shit hit the fan and I am braving my day for any lashing out from my family, or from anyone. On what shoulds and shouldnots, could and couldnots, how my dad would gleefully told me that I have ‘stubborn certified’ stamped across my forehead.

They Say

“If you were me, could you defend the given rights to all of man?”

(edit: March 6, 2014:

if you read this page or maybe not, that means you agree that you are reading this on your own free will. this is a PERSONAL story, true events, no holds barred. i will censor all the names again by my own preference, since you brave enough to take this old post i shared with a closed group and share outside of it, but no balls and tits to even remotely tell me i should censor them.

you can think whatever you want on your social media, i can think whatever i want. this is NOT a made-up story, or finding who is the victim, or to tarnish anyone’s reputation, be it your parents, your siblings, relatives, friends.

why you post it publicly?
– so that if i die, someone bound to get this page if i forgot to let them know. can you imagine not knowing ever? yes. ah okay.

why do you hate Dr S. and Dr. K?
– i don’t. but they would re-think how they treated me and others, should they remember me

why you hate the gomen hospital so much?
– i don’t. but i won’t go deep on that. you seems smart to jump into that by yourself.

kau MUSTI orang jenis taknak vaksin, percaya google and wikipedier, anak mati..padan muka.
– OMG..sedap mulut. vaksin atau tak, itu hak parents. aku bawak anak aku vaksin, tak pernah miss. apa kejadah kau ni, anti google? sumpah tak pernah guna google ke? kalau orang cam kau jenis guna google mmg confirm ok tapi utk aku tak? come on.

why you close comments? you sked issit? sked kitty fatty boo boo
– I just found out about auto closed comment in setting. i dunnolah about blogging blogging ni. i am so dumb. then i found it. then i was like wheeeeee i clickkkk wheeee.

you are one selfish prick! may God(s) curse you into the nothingness and your child become stupid!
– i know. but that is not so religious of you to say that. would u like people to say that to you?

by reading this, I assume you read this as well.

read at your own risk. i risk myself everyday to just to live.)

“If You Don’t Push Until 10, Your Baby Will Suffocate In The Birth Canal…”

“If You Don’t Push Until 10, Your Baby Will Suffocate In The Birth Canal…”

definitely my favourite website to read, apart from other things serious that makes my baby in the tummy frowns.

some of the comments are witty and true:

1.

What the hell? Apparently they don’t teach that babies get their oxygen from the cord until the baby is actually out at medical school. Seriously how do you graduate from even just high school without knowing these things?

2.

You always have to ask the question “how many adults do you know who haven’t been born?”

Works with a lot of stupid statements!

3. this what most mothers go through in malaysian govt hospital. mental note: need to hire lawyer if this shit happens.

This is mine. It was a brutal labour. I can’t get into too much detail as the doctor is being investigated by the medical board over my labour but I can tell you I was injected with medications against my will and wishes; the cord was clamped immediately, against my wishes; my hubby was yelled at when he asked if he was cutting in the right place; The doc and nurses preformed 2 pelvic exams without warning and against my will…to the point where I had to kick the doctor to get her to remove her hand; my water was broken against my wishes.

When crowning, I screamed quite loud in shock over how fast the pain came on. The doctor said: “Oh will you just stop. If you keep doing that you’re going to tear your perinium”. When I did tear and started screaming because the numbing needle for stitches hurt like hell she said “See. You shouldn’t have screamed now you can deal with the pain. It’s not that bad” There was more but I’d bore you all with it. Needless to say next baby is coming at home in the water with me pushing however the hell I want.

the benefit of delayed cord clamping

aku tak paham. sapa cakap potong tali pusat baby cepat2 atas alasan ‘nanti baby tak dapat bernafas’ is horse shit, dan sengaja nak membodohkan bakal bakal ibu. i am all for pro-vaccine, but cutting the cord as soon as possible will not lessen the jaundice, but worsen it even more. the same if you give a newborn baby a bath as soon as she/he comes in to the world.

birth is not something to be feared about, but the mindset of some people irks me. you had sex, made it out of pure love, and suddenly you are bombarded with the stress of giving birth, which to me, will stress the baby as well.

unless i have HIV in my blood, what is the harm of at least wait for 5 minutes? again, i am not giving birth at a gomen hospital for free. the docs, nurses and midwives aren’t working there for free.

i still have faith for them. but i wish they have the faith in mother-to-be too, rather than doing things just to speed things up.

tali pusat yang masih berdenyut dan masih mengalirkan darah back and forth with the baby and placenta can be seen as berpintal and gemuk sikit. once it stop pulsating, it will be like thing white usus kambing yang dah dipicit isik tahinya.

 

give baby the chance, despite there is a chance of a delay cord clamping CAN cause jaundice…occasionally.

 

The World Health Organization recommends clamping of the cord after one to three minutes because it “improves the iron status of the infant.” Occasionally delayed clamping can lead to jaundice in infants, caused by liver trouble or an excessive loss of red blood cells, and so the W.H.O. advises that access to therapy for jaundice be taken into consideration.

from nytimes

and from medicalnewstoday:

“The benefits of delayed cord clamping need to be weighed against the small additional risk of jaundice in newborns. Later cord clamping to increase iron stores might be particularly beneficial in settings where severe anaemia is common”

these are just links from the internet. but i bet them docs must have more resources and up-to-date medical journals that they can refer to, and not just doing things just because ‘that’s what has been done centuries ago’.

general anaesthesia was being seen as a common thing for giving birth once upon a time. so if they can change that, why not keep on changing to give a birth experience a memorable one?

expectant mothers are not those faceless people. they have to bear with the child and anything that might happen to the child at home. the least they can have a decent non-traumatic experience at a public hospitals.

but then again, one can just hope.

 

Related articles

• Clamping the Umbilical Cord too Soon Could Lower Newborn’s Birth Weight (medindia.net)
• Hold the scissors for the baby’s sake (smh.com.au)
• Don’t cut cord too hastily for baby’s sake (theage.com.au)
• Later cord clamping after birth increases iron levels in babies (oddonion.com)